Presentation on theme: "Resistance Making Sense Out of Resistance"— Presentation transcript:
1Resistance Making Sense Out of Resistance Presenter Mark Lowis, LMSW, MINT President, MML Consulting
2Key QuestionsWhat is the difference between a Character Trait and an Interpersonal State?Between the two where do you find Resistance?How could interpersonal activity ignite resistance when a behavior is judged to be a character Trait?How does the labeling of persons character based on resistance limit the effectiveness of the counselor?How does understanding the resistance change the approach of the counselor?How does understanding the resistance change the direction or target of the counseling?How does understanding the resistance lead to behavior change?
3Truth Table With profession comes the insinuation of authority With authority comes the impulse for controlling behaviorsWith control comes enforcementWith enforcement comes need for consequencesBecause counselors have no real authority what evolves is pseudo-authority (judging, blaming, labeling the client) to reduce frustrationPeople (clients/consumers) try to reduce consequencesIf not ready to change reducing consequences becomes resistanceControllers evoke resistance, confront, evoke more, confront more…What is the most effective replacement for authority with regard to evoking behavior change?
5Judging Evokes Fixing Removing the ability to resist Righting Response LecturingParentingPolicingInvestigatingConfiningControllingInstitutionalizing
6Not Judging Evokes Curiosity What is the behavior (resistance) for?How does the resistance make sense?How do we shift to help with the issue that makes the resistance necessary to the person?How do we gain simple conversant trust?How do we use the simple conversant trust to develop an opportunity for amelioration of the reason for resistance?
7Removing the BarrierShift focus from the treatment goal to the reason for the resistanceGain trust and focus on the relationshipTarget the reason for resistance and assist/collaborate with the client to resolve the reasonIncrease readiness (DARNC) for change by ameliorating barriers to readinessEmphasize Choice and Control of the client and position yourself as the collaborative/Assistive partner
8Following the Client Watch for effect of your utterances on the client Adjust your approach/utterances based on the client’s reactionsOpenly address resistance when you see it from a desire to understand remain helpful (empathy)Watch your own reactionsAvoid operating on the client to make yourself feel less frustrated with their resistanceApologize for errors in approachReassure genuine intentionsBack up and start againAsk the client to teach you what you didn’t understand
9The Search for Intrapersonal Fuel How does the client work the world (find out but don’t judge)What matters to the clientHow can you help them achieve what they care about?What do they already know, have tried, have been toldWork with themAvoid “trying to get them ta…!”
10IDDT Team Meeting Facilitated activity Case Discussion Formula What was Last contact for?What did we do?What did they Do?What was outcome?Based on that, what will the next contact be for?What will our interventions be?Who will do that?
11Resistance Making Sense Out of Resistance Presenter Mark Lowis, LMSW, MINT President, MML Consulting