1. Reaching & Responding: Improving Quality, Safety, and Service Provision for Male Victims @RespectUK #RespectMaleVictims

2. Chair’s Introduction Jo Todd | CEO, Respect @RespectUK #RespectMaleVictims

3. Developing Male Victim’s Standards Davina James-Hanman @RespectUK #RespectMaleVictims

4. developing the standards for male domestic violence services Davina James-Haman & Shannon Harvey

5. the brief Must dovetail with existing standards Must be evidence based Must be proportionate

6. evidence review Rapid evidence assessment of existing research Key informant interviews (17 professionals) Online survey of male victims of domestic abuse (42 men) Online survey of men’s service providers (28 services)

7. help-seeking and support needs Men who hadn’t sought help from services reported a number of barriers to help-seeking, which are broadly similar to those known to be barriers for women. Not identifying their experiences as domestic abuse; Concern about losing access to their children; Not knowing support was available; Concern about their partner getting in trouble; Concern about being seen by police to be the perpetrator rather than the victim; Concern that they will be ‘stigmatised’ by seeking support.

8. evidence review - findings Much of the research focuses on prevalence not on service design Gendered responses are needed as men’s help-seeking / engagement influenced by their social constructions of masculinity and their sexuality (fear of homophobia) Multiple abusers (not just female partners but also male partners sons and / or partner’s relatives) Some men have a preference for a men-only service but this wasn’t strong Higher incidence of abusers with complex needs Compared to women, men more likely to be employed and less likely to be in rented housing

9. evidence review – findings (cont.) Men want more non face-to-face support to be made available and more evening access Not especially interested in refuges Like women, men experiencing abuse are at risk of self-harm, including misuse of alcohol and suicide ideation, but are often reluctant to access ‘emotional support’ GBT men want confidential / flexible access to help (inc. non face-to- face), informed and diverse staff and GBT inclusive services BME men fund it especially hard to access services which only got worse for GBT BME men Men presenting as victims when actually perpetrators or perpetrator- victims vs. not being believed

10. evidence review Some issues may be more prevalent for men – such as having an abusive partner who has complex needs, or having an abusive partner of the same sex – but are nevertheless experienced by women. This raises the question of whether a service standard for men should highlight additional things a service needs to do on top of what they may provide for women, or whether it should also highlight where additional resource or emphasis is needed on an issue because there may be greater prevalence.

11. what is distinctly different? Staff must be able to identify and assess perpetrators of domestic abuse who present as victims, and the service has processes in place to manage risk to the perpetrators’ partner and other service users; Staff must be able to identify and manage risk from multiple perpetrators; A gendered approach and understanding of cultures of masculinities is necessary to respond to men’s help-seeking and to remove barriers to engagement. Further, while LGBT-inclusiveness is also crucial for women’s services, the apparently greater prevalence of domestic abuse experienced by gay and bisexual men with male partners compared to heterosexual men with female partners, and the differences in support needs between these groups of men, means that standards for men’s services will need to pay particular attention to sexuality and equality.

12. structure of the standards Governance and leadership Ensuring the safety of victims and staff Stability, resilience and autonomy Diversity and equality of access Children and young people Integrated partnerships

13. pilot site identified gaps LGBT knowledge Risk assessment Complaints policy Service user feedback mechanisms Asking about staff experiences of domestic violence Supporting men as fathers Dealing with couples approaching the service

14. what changed in the standards Children and young people Exit strategies Accommodation standards

15. support to pilot sites Training on the pilot and expectations Production of a standards manual with guidance on types of evidence required (and corresponding manual for assessors) Examples of sample policies on key gaps Training on risk assessment Training on LGBT issues ‘It was excellent - it really had a buzz going, lots of debate, discussion and learning seemed to be really useful to all.’ Review /edit of existing policies and protocols

16. Commissioning Quality Standards Natasha Plummer | MOPAC @RespectUK #RespectMaleVictims

17. Male Victims and Honour Based Violence Anup Manota | Karma Nirvana @RespectUK #RespectMaleVictims

18. Honour Based Abuse and Forced Marriage 2016 Anup Manota

19. 19 Karma Nirvana Timeline 1993 Founded on survivor experiences, survivor engagement remains at heart of all KN work 1993 Founded on survivor experiences, survivor engagement remains at heart of all KN work Marking 21 years National project based in West Yorkshire Increase reporting, reduce isolation, save lives Marking 21 years National project based in West Yorkshire Increase reporting, reduce isolation, save lives 2008 - 2014 Received over 45,000 calls Developed national Honour Network Helpline Support all experiencing HBV Forced Marriage Criminalised 2008 - 2014 Received over 45,000 calls Developed national Honour Network Helpline Support all experiencing HBV Forced Marriage Criminalised Karma Nirvana Services Unique Helpline, risk assessments, campaigners, survivor support, training, events, expert witness, face-to-face Karma Nirvana Services Unique Helpline, risk assessments, campaigners, survivor support, training, events, expert witness, face-to-face 2015-Present Day of Memory marked on Shafilea Ahmed’s birthday Out of Hours Service is back! 2015-Present Day of Memory marked on Shafilea Ahmed’s birthday Out of Hours Service is back!

20. 20 The presentation will provide: Distinguish Arrange and Forced Marriages Gain an understanding of honour systems and honour codes within family dynamics Identify HBA & FM Statistics & Facts Male Case Studies Warning Signs & Indicators Best practice do’s & don’ts An insight into new forced marriage criminal law & FMPOs

21. 21 Forced Marriage Arranged Marriage A marriage where one or both people do not (or in cases of people with learning disabilities cannot) consent to the marriage and pressure or abuse is used. A marriage in which families take a leading role, but the parties have the free will and choice to accept or decline the arrangement. Forced, Arranged or Grey? GREY AREA Here (Forced) A marriage may begin here (arranged) but end up

22. 22 Honour based violence is defined as: Can be distinguished from other forms of abuse, as it is often committed with some degree of approval and/or collusion from family and/or community members Victims will have multiply perpetrators not only in UK but can be abroad, HBV can be trigger for a FM. Honour Based Violence “An incident or crime which has or may have been committed to protect or defend the honour of the family and or community” NPCC

23. 23 HBA Forced Marriage Assault FGM Murder Criminal Damage Blackmail Rape Kidnap Threats to kill

25. Gay Male Sheffield Case Caller grew up in a ‘strict Muslim’ household and said his dad beat him for being gay when he was a child. He witnessed domestic violence and experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, control and was forced to practice religion. He received death threats when he came out as a teenager and is fearful of the community. He left the family home to go to university and did not return until recently. Whilst at university, he entered into an abusive relationship.

26. Gay Male Sheffield Case He had to leave his partner’s home and spent some time homeless before returning to his family home. Now back with his family, he is experiencing emotional abuse and his family are trying to force him to marry a woman. Neighbours are also showing him pictures of potential women. Caller contacted us for emotional support and we supported him over a period of several months. He decided he wanted to go to a refuge, however we were unable to find a space for him because he is male and there are limited spaces for men.

27. Male Forced Marriage Case Male first called KN on the 30th December. He explained that he is feeling afraid because his family have found out that he is in a relationship with a white British female and they don’t approve of the relationship. He said that he has been experiencing emotional abuse from his mother to try and get him to leave his partner and is at risk of a FM in Afghanistan or in the UK. His family have tried to get him fired from his job however, his manager reassured him that he won’t lose his job. His family have also been stalking his partner and they know where she lives. His mother had threatened his partner in the past. We spoke through his options such as refuge, safety planning and speaking to the police. He explained that the police didn’t understand his situation when he called them. The police officer said “he is sorry but he is not trained in ‘cultural issues”.

28. Male Forced Marriage Case We reassured the victim that we can highlight risks to the police, but victim seems to be put off by it. The victim is in regular contact with KN including email. We are still providing him with emotional and practical support and reassured him that we can refer him to refuge and advocate for him to the police. He said his relationship has ended because his partner feared for her safety as well as her daughters. He has been forced to leave his job, he is being kept in the house against his will and been promised independency if he agrees to marriage – He has stated that his risk for FM has increased (high). He said he wants to leave as well as his older brother who is also experiencing abuse now but they are both wanting private accommodation. We explored his options with him – accommodation, police escort as he believed he wouldn’t be able to leave safely, safe areas. The victim is still hesitant to contact the Police

29. 29 Identifying HBA & FM Possible Questions: -Ask ‘what does honour/respect mean to you and your family? Use word ‘izzat’ -How important is honour to the family? Scale 1 to 10 -Friends/siblings may know experiences -What does your family believe are shameful behaviours? Identifying do’s & don’ts-risk? -What do you regard to be safe or unsafe to disclose to your family? -Who is the head/decision maker of the family? Consider UK & abroad -Dual Passport? -If you go abroad what is your EDR? Who likely to go with you? Where will you stay? How can we contact you?

30. 30 WARNING SIGNS! a history of older siblings leaving education early and marrying early depression, self-harming and attempted suicide unreasonable restrictions such as being kept at home by parents or being removed from education unexpected/extended absence during term time for a holiday or to visit sick relatives and/or not returned after holiday period always being accompanied including to school and doctors appointments Ministry of Justice Guidance for Local Authorities – October 2009

31. 31 Best Practice

32. 32 Best practice...

33. 33 KEY ELEMENTS OF NEW LAW A person commits an offence England and Wales if he or she:  Forcing an individual to marry against their will.  Using violence, threats or deception to cause another person to leave the UK for the purpose of a forced marriage.  Breach of a forced marriage protection order.  If a person lacks the capacity to consent, the offence is also capable of being committed by any conduct carried out for the purpose of causing the victim to marry, whether or not it amounts to violence, threats or any other form of coercion. 33

34. 34 PENALTIES  FORCED MARRIAGE OFFENCE - If convicted in a criminal court, maximum penalty on indictment will be imprisonment for a term not exceeding seven years.  If convicted in a civil court, maximum penalty on summary conviction will be imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months and/or a fine  BREACH OF A FORCED MARRIAGE PROTECTION ORDER - If the breach is in a criminal court, maximum penalty on indictment will be imprisonment for a term not exceeding five years. - If the breach is in a civil court, maximum penalty on summary conviction will be imprisonment for a term not exceeding six months and/or a fine 34

35. 35 HOW THE LAW CAN HELP FORCED MARRIAGES HAS BECOME A CRIMINAL OFFENCE in June 2014. We will still have the use of Forced Marriage Protection Orders (FMPOs) to help. FMPOS are civil orders with legally binding requirements to protect a person at risk. Some examples of what they include are:  Protect victims from being taken overseas/or being them back  Stop them for being forced into marriage whether religious or otherwise  Stop them being hurt/harmed or threatened  Stop them being harassed.  35

36. RIP Shafilea Ahmed 36 Died Aged 17 DOB: 14 th July 14 1986 'Happy Families‘ I don't pretend like we're the perfect family no more Desire to live is burning My stomach is burning But all they think about is honour I was like a normal teenage kid Didn't ask 2 much I jus wanted to fit in But my culture was different But my family ignored 'Happy Families‘ I don't pretend like we're the perfect family no more Desire to live is burning My stomach is burning But all they think about is honour I was like a normal teenage kid Didn't ask 2 much I jus wanted to fit in But my culture was different But my family ignored

37. 37 Day of Memory - July 14 th THIS YEAR YOU CAN HELP! Conference Held in Newcastle with PCC & Safe Newcastle Get your organisation involved! Contact: dom@karmanirvana.org.uk Last year’s results:  Over 110,000 signatures  Cosmopolitan Campaign  #remembershafilea = 4,647 tweets = 22,550,511 impressions on Twitter  Busiest July: 718 calls  Since DOM had 2000 unique visits to KN ‘help me’ page 31

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