1. Healthy Respect Partners Event 17 th March 2016 Waverley Gate, Edinburgh Parenthood & Relationship Education Project (PREP) Enabling children and young people to develop healthy, positive relationships and to prepare for possible future parenthood

2. Introduction Shared desire between WAVE and SG – To make the next generation of parents the best generation of parents A universal resource that could be used by teachers – Linking with the Curriculum for Excellence RSHP – Parenthood component of RSHP is not fully addressed in SHARE or other similar resources Ability to be adapted to other settings – Youth work, residential units, prison, other specialist settings

3. Introduction PREP aims to develop, pilot then produce a relationships and parenthood preparation toolkit for young people So far we have – conducted an international review of best practice – interviewed 55 young people and 52 professionals – identified (based on our research) 14 Topics (grouped under 5 ‘R’s’) 4 Underlying Values – created 16 session plans – piloted and evaluated several session plans

4. The Five R’s

5. Values of PREP Inclusive learning learners actively engaged feel safe & welcome different learning styles Equality & diversity tackling discrimination & stigma protecting equalities issues celebrating diversity Positive modelling model good behaviour use positive language/imagery Context specific different contexts (cultural, financial, family construct) differentiation adaptability

6. Topics and Key Learning Relationships R1Positive relationships Qualities and skills necessary to sustain positive and healthy relationships How relationships can promote health and wellbeing Importance of being cared for and caring for others in relationships How to show appreciation to others who care for me R2Connectedness How babies communicate with their caregivers and how to connect with babies Baby states and cues and why these are an important part of parenting Importance of listening and observing What "connectedness" means and why love matters

7. Topics and Key Learning Resilience R3Managing change Skills to manage change and make decisions about relationships Change is a constant part of life but can be dealt with by different skills and strategies How to approach the frequent changes that can happen in relationships How and why to end a relationship R4Emotional intelligence Dynamics of emotional intelligence and how self-awareness, self-esteem, self- management and social awareness can help to develop emotional resilience Practical ways to grow self-worth and self-esteem, for myself and in my future possible child R5 Strengthening mental health Promotion of mental wellbeing through positive relationships and personal coping skills Many people experience poor mental health and support is available for them Five steps to mental wellbeing (#connect #be active #keep learning #give to others #be mindful) and how they can help build up resilience to the challenges of life

8. Topics and Key Learning Resourcefulness R6 Support for parents and infants Stages of child development including the abilities and needs of children at each stage Different types of support for parents and carers and the importance of asking for help Barriers to accessing support and investigation of local support options R7Asking for help Know when feelings are manageable, and when they may be a cause for concern Understand support needs and that sometimes asking for help is difficult Know where to find support, and who can help in finding that support R8 Active parenting skills What parents can do to provide a rich home learning environment, to give children the best start in life and to ensure school-readiness The different parental skills needed and the importance of play How what happens at home can help protect against the impact of disadvantage

9. Topics and Key Learning Respect R9Conflict resolution Verbal and non-verbal communication and the importance of body language Active listening skills to aid communication The impact of non-verbal communication on conflict resolution Strategies of non-violent conflict resolution Respectful and disrespectful ways of solving problems with others R10Nurturing authority The importance of being an authority figure for my child, and providing positive, nurturing guidance The importance of providing rules and consequences for children’s behaviour with the aim of progressively helping them to learn appropriate self-control as they mature R11 Respecting relationships How relationships develop and change over time and how to nurture relationships How best to care for others emotionally and practically The importance of empathy in relationships

10. Topics and Key Learning Responsibility R12Practical parenting Practical aspects of parenting including safety, finance and budgeting for my family Responsibility of having a child including the costs associated with having a child and the daily tasks R13 Child health and wellbeing Responsibility of parents to nurture children's development, health and wellbeing Importance of providing children with security, stability, happiness and love R14 Parental roles + responsibility Role of a parent/carer and the skills, commitment and qualities the role requires Importance and the enduring and complex responsibility of being a parent/carer, and the impact on life choices and options.

11. Linking with HWB Mental and emotional wellbeing HWB 3-01a / HWB 4-01aI am aware of and able to express my feelings and am developing the ability to talk about them R1: Positive Relationships R4: Emotional Intelligence HWB 3-02a / HWB 4-02a I know that we all experience a variety of thoughts and emotions that affect how we feel and behave and I am learning ways of managing them. R5: Strengthening Mental Health R4: Emotional Intelligence HWB 3-03a / HWB 4-03a I understand that there are people I can talk to and that there are a number of ways in which I can gain access to practical and emotional support to help me and others in a range of circumstances. R5: Emotional Intelligence R7: Asking for Help HWB 3-04a / HWB 4-04a I understand that my feelings and reactions can change depending upon what is happening within and around me. This helps me to understand my own behaviour and the way others behave. R9: Conflict Resolution HWB 3-05a / HWB 4-05a I know that friendship, caring, sharing, fairness, equality and love are important in building positive relationships. As I develop and value relationships, I care and show respect for myself and others. R1: Positive Relationships R11: Respecting Relationships HWB 3-06a / HWB 4-06a I understand the importance of mental wellbeing and that this can be fostered and strengthened through personal coping skills and positive relationships. I know that it is not always possible to enjoy good mental health and that if this happens there is support available. R5: Emotional Intelligence HWB 3-07a / HWB 4-07aI am learning skills and strategies which will support me in challenging times, particularly in relation to change and loss.R3: Managing Change Social Wellbeing HWB 3-09a / HWB 4-09a As I explore the rights to which I and others are entitled, I am able to exercise these rights appropriately and accept the responsibilities that go with them. I show respect for the rights of others. R11: Respecting Relationships R12: Practical Parenting HWB 3-10a / HWB 4-10a I recognise that each individual has a unique blend of abilities and needs. I contribute to making my school community one which values individuals equally and is a welcoming place for all. R11: Respecting Relationships HWB 3-12a / HWB 4-12a Representing my class, school and/or wider community encourages my self-worth and confidence and allows me to contribute to and participate in society. R4: Emotional Intelligence Relationships, sexual health and parenthood HWB 3-44a / HWB 4-44aI understand the importance of being cared for and caring for others in relationships, and can explain whyR1: Positive Relationships HWB 3-44b / HWB 4-44bI understand and can demonstrate the qualities and skills required to sustain different types of relationships.R1: Positive Relationships HWB 3-44c / HWB 4-44c I understand and can explain the importance of, and need for, commitment, trust and respect in loving and sexual relationships. I understand the different contexts of such relationships including marriage. R1: Positive Relationships HWB 3-45b / HWB 4-45b I am aware of the need to respect personal space and boundaries and can recognise and respond appropriately to verbal and non-verbal communication. R9: Conflict Resolution HWB 3-51a / HWB 4-51a I can explain the importance and the enduring and complex responsibility of being a parent/carer, and the impact on life choices and options. R12: Practical Parenting R13: Child Development R14: Parental Roles and Responsibilites HWB 3-51bI can explain the support and care necessary to ensure a child is nurtured through the different stages of childhood. R6: Support for Parents and Infants R12: Practical Parenting R13: Child Development HWB 4-51b Through investigation I can explain the support available for parents and carers looking after babies and bringing up children. R6: Support for Parents and Infants

12. Toolkit – Session Plans

13. Toolkit Session Plans Each session plan contains – Key Learning – Links with HWB Es and Os – Resources Required – Suggested Learning + Success Criteria – Additional Sources of information – Resource materials (which can be edited) – Facilitator Notes – to provide background and additional information to facilitators The toolkit will also contain a general guide to running a session

14. Toolkit – Evaluation Materials

15. Pilot Testing Schools, youth groups and others were invited to test the sessions So far – 36 young people have participated in pilots of 7 sessions – Most groups have been small – Peer educators have developed and tested some activities Evaluation will determine: – Success of sample activities in achieving outcomes; – Usability of forms (consent forms, evaluation forms etc.); – Ease of use of learner resources and materials, and – Effectiveness of evaluation tools.

16. Evaluation and Review We will bring together information from – Participant evaluations – Facilitator evaluations – Key Stakeholder feedback We are in the process of updating the toolkit to reflect the feedback so far The completed version will be available at the National Event and then online afterwards

17. National Event – 28 th April The National Event will be held on 28 th April in Edinburgh It will aim to – inspire practitioners and decision makers to change the way we talk to young people about parenthood and relationships – share latest research and international best practice with regards to parenthood and relationships education programmes – explain how the PREP toolkit works and how it can be used in a variety of settings to deliver significant aspects of learning on Parenthood – support those involved with educating young people in Scotland to meet the Health & Wellbeing curricular requirements

18. National Event – 28 th April Speakers include – Tam Baillie, Children and Young People's Commissioner in Scotland – Education Scotland – Suzanne Zeedyk, Developmental Psychologist If you would like to receive an invitation to the event please email: chillson@wavetrust.org