1. USING SELF-CONTROL

2.  Self-Control refers to the power each of us has over the things we say and do. Using self-control helps you manage stressful situations, make good choices, and avoid negative consequences.  Self-Control also help you avoid treating others rudely. SELF-CONTROL

3.  A recent survey asked adults “What are the rudest things teenagers do in public?” 10. Litter. 9.Talk too loud or yell at people. 8.Make fun of other people. 7.Talk back to adults. 6.Don’t say “Please” or “Thank you.” 5.Pick their noses. 4.Block other people’s way in hallways and sidewalks. 3.P.D.A. (Public Display of Affection). 2.Spit, burp, and belch. 1. Swear or use obscene language. TOP 10 RUDE THINGS TEENAGERS DO

4. 1.Tune in to what is going on in your body that helps you know you are about to lose control of yourself. Pay attention to your body’s physical reactions and your thoughts. Think about the kind of influence your group of friends are having upon you in the situation. How Does Your Body Feel? Are you getting tense, angry, hot, fidgety? Are you too relaxed and comfortable and not paying attention to those around you? What kind of thoughts are you thinking? Angry, revenge, or escape? Too excited and out of control. STEPS FOR USING SELF-CONTROL

5. 2.Decide what happened to make you feel that way. Consider both outside events and inside events (thoughts). What was the situation? How did you perceive it? What were the other person’s intentions? Name your feeling. STEPS FOR USING SELF-CONTROL

6. 3.Think about ways in which you might control yourself. Calming Down Strategies Slow down Count to 10 Breathe deeply Leave the situation Do something else Assert yourself (not aggression) Think about how others feel Use Self-talk to calm down STEPS FOR USING SELF-CONTROL

7. 4.Choose the best way to control yourself and do it. STEPS FOR USING SELF-CONTROL 1, 2, 3,...

8.  Your teacher accused you of talking during the test, but it was actually the person sitting behind you.  You are talking with your friends in the hallway between classes and someone bumps into you because you are blocking the hallway.  At the mall, one of your friends is mimicking other people as they walk past.  Your parent has asked you several times to do your chores, but you are watching T.V. You are starting to feel angry.  You and your friends are talking in line outside the movie theater and you notice people staring at your group because there is a lot of swearing in your conversation. SELF-CONTROL PRACTICE

9.  Using self-control is a way to show respect for yourself and others. You can avoid trouble when you are in control of the things you say and do. It is also a way to show that you are becoming a mature, responsible person.