1. Gift of Sexuality
Chapter 9

2. Goodness of Sex Sex, in fact, is good
God created us with capacity for love and communion
Empowered us to create new life
Made us as sexual beings with equal dignity and worth

3. Sexuality more than Sex
Act of sex is not all there is to being sexual
Involves our emotional and spiritual makeup
Sexuality affects all other aspects of us

4. Sex Attitudes
Read questions in the survey on p. 217 and check how you feel about it.

5. How is decision made?
Reasons to wait vs. not wait

6. Child Level Reasons Feeling good or bad Having fun
Looking for excitement
Being spontaneous or free
Boredom
Rebellion
Angry
Immediate gratification

7. Pressure Level Reasons
Belonging
Pleasing others
Seeking popularity
Avoiding punishment
Maintaining or developing reputation
Looking good

8. Adult Level Reasons Rational thinking Rights of others
Responsibilities
Real love
Long range goals
Awareness of risks and consequences
Religious convictions
Promises and commitments
Personal moral values

9. Statistics: What are teens deciding?
Percentages have declined over last decade
Fewer than half (47%) of all 9-12th graders report having had sexual intercourse
Percentage increases with grade

10. Statistics: What are teens deciding?
66% of high school students were currently abstinent
Of teens who had never had sex:
94% were concerned about pregnancy
92% were concerned about STDs
91% felt they were too young

11. What do you think?
Survey says….

12. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it your S.O. be popular?
B: 1.6
A: 3.2

13. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it to you that the person you marry is a virgin?
B: 3.1
A: 5.6

14. Survey Says…. On a Scale of 1-10, how important are looks in a S.O?
B: 6.3
A: 5.4

15. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it for your S.O. to have a reputation as a good person?
B: 7.1
A: 7.3

16. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it to have similar morals and values to your S.O?
B: 7.5
A: 6.3

17. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it your S.O. have a sense of humor?
B: 8.4
A: 8.1

18. Survey Says….
On a Scale of 1-10, how important is it to you that your S.O. is an honest person?
B: 9.7
A: 8.2

19. Survey Says….
Do you think the possibility of getting an STD affects the conduct of your peers?
Yes: 92% (B) 52% (A)
No: 8% (B) 48% (A)

20. Survey Says….
Do you think peer pressure is a factor in the conduct of your peers?
Yes: 84% (B) 75% (A)
No: 16% (B) 24% (A)

21. Survey Says….
Do you think fear of pregnancy is a factor in the conduct of your peers?
Yes: 90% (B) 84%(A)
No: 10% (B) 16% (A)

22. Survey Says….
Does your religious upbringing influence the decisions you make about sex?
Definitely: 29% (B) 15% (A)
Somewhat: 33% (B) 62% (A)
Not really: 35% (B) 23% (A)

23. Survey Says…. What influences your decisions about sex the most?
Faith/Values: 31% B 10% A
Family Upbringing: 45% B 31% A
Friends: 18% B 12% A
Boyfriend/Girlfriend: 18% B 37% A
Other: 1% B 10% A

24. Survey Says….
Do you believe the media impacts your views on sexuality?
Yes: 71% (B) 78% (A)
No: 29% (B) 22% (A)

25. Survey Says….
Do you believe there is a double standard for guys vs. girls in society today?
Yes: 100% (B) 94% (A)
No: 0% (B) 6% (A)

26. Gender equity? Is there a double standard for guys vs. girls? P.227
Are consequences equal?

27. Case Study
Spur Posse

28. Catholic Church on Sex
God intended sex to be shared between man and woman in union of marriage
What is reasoning behind this?
Sexual union in marriage has 2 purposes:
Sharing of love between spouses
Transmission of life
- Fecundity: ability to produce offspring

29. Catholic Church on Birth Control
Married couples have duty and right to plan size of families in accord with God’s plan for family planning & for moral and unselfish reasons
Moral means of birth regulation (ie: abstinence and natural family planning) must be in harmony with 2 purposes of marriage
Artificial contraceptive methods are morally contrary to God’s plan for sexual sharing

30. Catholic Church on sterility
Church supports medical methods to help couples overcome sterility, however, no couple has absolute right to have a child
Child is gift from God, not property
Artificial procedures intrude on bond of husband and wife

31. Offenses against marriage
Adultery: sexual relations with someone other than spouse
Divorce: dissolution of the marriage contract
Polygamy: having more than 1 spouse
Incest and sexual abuse
Free unions: couples do not have relationship sanctified by law

32. Importance of Virtues
Chastity: helps us control sexual desires and use them appropriately
Purity: wanting to do the right thing to please God, helps control lust
Modesty: Helps us to respect sexuality by guarding intimacy
How can they help us make decisions?
How do they compare/contrast with images society sends?

33. Contrary to the virtues are…
Masturbation
Fornication
Pornography
Prostitution
Rape
Homosexuality

34. Sexual Harassment Any unwanted words, touches or actions
Depends on how person perceives signals
Could be harassing people without knowing

35. Examples?
Flirting vs. Sexual Harassment

36. Definition of Sexual Abuse
Any act involving unlawful sexual abuse, molestation, fondling or carnal knowledge of a child less than 13 years of age

37. Child Sexual Abuse
Any act involving unlawful sexual contact or penetration against a child years of age if act is committed by parent, guardian, relative or person residing in home or responsible for care of child

38. Statistics
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be abused before the age of 15

39. Rape
Defined as unlawful sexual penetration including genital, oral or anal sexual intercourse
Involves 1 or more of following:
Force or coercion is used
Victim didn’t consent or unable to
Offender uses fraud
Aggravated rape: Offender is armed with a weapon, inflicts bodily harm or there are multiple offenders

40. Rape of a Child
Sexual contact or penetration with a child less than 13 years of age
Class A felony: carries a sentence of years in prison if convicted

41. Statutory Rape
Sexual penetration when victim is at least 13 but less than 18 and defendant is at least 4 years older than the victim
Still rape even if young person consents
Class E felony if convicted: 1-6 years in prison

42. Incest
Relative has sexual contact with a child or teen less than 18 years of age
Definition includes extended family, adoptive families, half siblings

43. Impact of Sexual Abuse
Tremendous impact that destroys love, trust and friendship
Especially offensive when perpetrator is someone who was trusted to guarantee safety

44. Perpetrators
Pedophile: Adult that desires a sexual relationship with children before adolescence
Ephebophile: Adult that desires a sexual relationship with a teen only during adolescence
Can be male or female, often in authority

45. Pedophiles
Take advantage of trust, innocence and desire to please in children, usually male, only female 15%
Prefer 1 parent households and children who are shy, needy, quiet or passive
Use touching games like tickling, wrestling etc to confuse child about appropriate touch

46. Tactics used
Grooming: manipulation used to begin relationship with child (gifts, attention, earn child’s trust, befriend family)
Lure children to unsafe area with promises
Coercion: bribes or trickery
Bullying, force, intimidation, cruelty

47. Ephebophile
Takes advantage of times teens feel alone and misunderstood
Try to develop relationship by appealing to social and emotional needs
More likely to be non family members
Usually well liked

48. Tactics used Sexual material (magazines, movies, etc)
Alcohol or mind altering substances
Abuse position of power
Form relationships online and find ways to be alone without chaperones

49. Juvenile Sex Offender
Teens engaging in sexual behavior harmful to peers
Often sexualized bullies disguising abuse as “hazing”
Take advantage of peers or children isolated from others or may use romantic interest to push date into uncomfortable behavior (ie: date rape)

50. Profile of Offenders Every type of neighborhood & ethnic background
Usually someone victims knows and trusts
Well liked and popular image, but really self centered and narcissistic, no regard for society’s rules
Often don’t see what they do as wrong, but as “helping” the teen

51. Prevention First step is awareness
Understand most adults are trustworthy and safe, but use your best judgment if you feel someone is crossing the line
Stay with 2 or more adults present
Inform parents of where you are/who you are with, ask their permission
Communicate if you’re uncomfortable and tell trusted adult immediately

52. Juvenile Prevention
Clearly communicate boundaries of your relationship
Tell your friends and family where you are
If meeting someone for first time, never go alone and go to public place
Never leave alone or go home with someone you have just met

53. Alcohol and Date Rape Drugs
“Roofies”: dime sized white pill impossible to detect if added to a drink, but alcohol is #1 date rape drug!
May not remember details or attack/attacker
Dangerous and possibly fatal when mixed with alcohol

54. Tips: Never leave a beverage unattended
Never accept a drink that has been opened
Keep an eye on friends and have them keep an eye on you
Intoxication= Danger

55. Alcohol and Pregnancy
25% of sexually experienced teens say they used alcohol or drugs last time they had sex
In study of unplanned pregnancies, 1/3 of girls were drinking when they had sex; 91% reported the sex was unplanned
Drinking at a young age increases chance of other risky behaviors (ie: smoking,drugs, sex)